Well I really became a mom when I found out I was pregnant 2 years ago but I had to get your attention some way :-). Since my last post, I have been doing a lot of planning and preparation for my next steps. I decided to adopt but I wanted to do it through foster care first. I finished my classes, inspections, and was approved on March 4th. On March 10th, I was called for my first child a 8 week baby boy who had my complexion and eyes. It was like looking at myself LOL. He was so adorable. I had him for 8 days before he was reunited with his grandparents. I was sad to see him go but happy he was reunited with his family. For those 8 days, it was pure joy. I loved every bit of being his mother for that short period of time. After he left, I thought for sure it would be awhile before I got another baby. Two weeks later they called me for a 6 week old baby who was too sick to leave the hospital so I ended up not caring for him but 2 days later, they called me for a 5 month old baby girl. I immediately called my daycare provider and told them I would be bringing a baby tomorrow. They already have a spot saved for me so they were ready. I didn't want to miss any time for work and I knew that as hectic as my schedule is, I needed to stay on task as much as possible. It's a big difference between 5 months and 6 weeks LOL. This little girl is teething, dancing, trying to crawl, and more. I call her my best friend and she laughs every time like she knows what I am saying. We just celebrated her 6 month birthday two days ago!
Foster care is never permanent unless the child has been in care for at least 15 months. This baby has already been in care for 6 months. If her permanency plan changes and adoption is an option, I would gladly adopt her. I have been asked several times "Is this something you wanna do" "To be a single mother?" Why not? These are innocent children that need a home. I am a single woman with a career, stable home, BIG heart, and a SUPPORTIVE family...why not!? My single home could give this baby twice the love she needs if not more. If you know me, then you know how I was with my goddaughter...she was WELL taken care of.
It took me a while to get to this point, but I am happy, the baby is happy, and my life is still functioning. I am holding it down with my full time job, Dream Girls, Tiny Dreamers, Summer Dreams, and anything else I signed up for. A piece of advice for anyone who has experienced a pregnancy or infant loss and still desires to be a mother, consider foster care. There are so many children who are in need of care.